Wondering why their stupid human insists on taking sooooo many pictures.
I'm sure a lot of you visit
Horse Junkies United regularly. They update daily with news from around the horse world as well as commentary from trainers, clinic reports, etc, etc... The other week they had a post that stood out to me a little more than others.
Goals, Schmoals and I Am a Stupid Human
It's not a long post, take a minute to read it. In summary, it talks about a horse owner that realized the hard way how much her horse really meant to her. That seems like kind of a stupid, obvious statement doesn't it? There's plenty of us that know what our horse(s) really mean to us, right? Maybe. This owner thought she did until she got a reality check and realized "all I cared about was my end of the relationship."
This owner immediately hit the fast forward button as soon as she found out her mare had a health problem that could end her career as a riding horse altogether. She was looking for a new home for the mare and window shopping for a replacement because she wanted to be in the show ring. This was the mare that she "loved since the minute I laid eyes on her." After crying her eyes out over the situation the owner decided she had "had failed her as a horse owner and her mom."
If you read the post you know it does have a happy ending but it was a rough trip for both of them to get to the happy ending. She kept her mare and decided to give her "patience. Love. And time to recover. Time to be a horse again."
This post made me think about commitment. I know there are plenty of horse owners out there that are 110% committed (myself included) to their horse(s). Whether you know it right from the start, or you have a strong, bonding moment along the way that triggers an epiphany. I know for some, horses are a business, they come and go. For others they are a lease horse to tide you over until you find THE ONE. But for those of us that aren't in those positions, how many of you are committed to your horse(s) to the point of if something happens tomorrow that renders them nothing else than a sound, comfortable pasture ornament, that selling them wouldn't even be a thought in your head? What if you couldn't afford another horse and it was: keep your supposed horse of a lifetime as a sound, comfortable pasture ornament or start looking for the new hotness? What would you do?? How committed are you to your horse(s)? I know mine wouldn't go anywhere. The heart, motivation, and loyalty they have shown...I just couldn't let them down because of an injury.
The part about being a stupid human...in the post the author says, "let’s give her more calming supplements. Fight for an hour while we ride. Get off in anger and frustration. Wash, rinse, repeat." I am a firm believer that 99% of the time you are having a crappy ride, it's your fault, not the horse's. If something isn't going the way you imagined, it's most likely because
you're doing it wrong. The horse is only doing what you tell him/her to do. Maybe the horse doesn't even know what you're asking them to do. They're just giving you their best guess and receiving frustration from the rider in exchange. There are times people need to recognize how lucky they are that their horse didn't dump them on the ground and head back to the barn instead of putting up with their bs. Sometimes I think people get so carried away with what they thought they were going to accomplish in a ride they fail to realize that maybe there's a breakdown in communication. Maybe the horse isn't quite understanding. Or maybe it's just an off day. There's no shame in saying "Ok, let's get two steps, frustration free, then go hack out the rest of the ride." I mean sure, we all know their personalities vary as much as the 6 billion people on this planet. So there's a slim to none chance you have that horse that just insists on flipping you the bird for whatever reason. Most of the time, that's not the case.
This makes me think of my favorite quote from
Doug Payne. One of the reasons he is one of my favorite pros out there is because of his values, like this: "It's very easy to come up with 10,000 reasons why your horse isn't
performing to his potential. About 9,997 of those excuses are just that,
excuses without solid backing. You have to treat your horse the way
you want him to be. Ninety-nine percent of horses are born to please.
They want to do things right, they want to please. Make it possible for
them to do just that.... Don't get caught up in thinking, "he's young
and inexperienced," or "he's never seen this before," or "he used to
race, drive, was ridden by a poor rider, mistreated, etc...." You don't
have control of where he's been, but you certainly have control of the
future, so change it!" That is the mindset of a someone that deserves success. I'm pretty sure that quote is one of my all time favorite equestrian quotes. Though George Morris' recent "This country is the king of sloppy" is a close second. Just kidding, kind of.
The one thing I always try to convey to people about my horses, no matter if they ride or they have never seen a horse up close in their life, is that my horses are not just pieces of sports equipment to help me play a game. They are my equal teammates, and they will be treated as such. Always.